I’m sure there are many, many things that you should not say to a pregnant woman. But in this post, I’m going to talk about one that is getting very, very annoying and frustrating to me. I have heard this comment several times from several different people. Why don’t people think before they speak? Is this society really that ignorant? What ever happened to “putting yourself in someone elses’ shoes”?
I am getting really, really tired of people telling me “you look big!”
Do you have any idea how that can make an already hormonal pregnant woman feel?
Luckily, I know my body, I know I’m NOT big and I know what I was before I got pregnant. Before I got pregnant, I was very active for two and a half years. I worked out almost every day. I ran. I ran a lot. I love running. I love working out. I love lifting weights. But if you venture back to this post here, you can see why I have NOT worked out since becoming pregnant. I’m simply not allowed to. This pregnant has been high risk since the beginning. And the last thing I want to do is put my baby girl in jeopardy because I’m in dire need to be “fit” (which I’m not, believe me-I LOVE my pregnant body).
Needless to say, this is something you do not say to a 5’2, 106lb petite girl. I’ve gotta say that the first 10 times I was told it, I just let it go. But after the 40th+ times I’ve heard this, I just want to let you all know how rude it is. How much it bothers me. How much it pisses me off. Because I love my body. I love the changes. I love being pregnant. And for people to say this crap, sorta ruins it for me. Makes me feel like they are un-supportive, negative and bashing me.
I’m not saying I’m this glowing, beautiful pregnant woman. I am by no means. Heck, another thing that really pisses me off is people pointing out my face. Yes, I KNOW I HAVE ACNE. I look at it every day. It’s my face. I see it 100 times a day people. I don’t need you to try to sell me products when I’m walking through the mall or ask me “was your face always like this?” or “what is wrong with your face?” Yes. I have had people ask me this question. Several times. In fact, I was in the beginning of a pedicure when this Korean lady asked me this question. I put it to a cultural thing. She didn’t know any better. As I sat there wanting to kick her in the face and start crying, I just simply said “I’m pregnant. It’s the hormones.” But why should I have to explain? Why would anyone in their right mind ask a question like that to someone? Especially woman to woman. Come on! I mean, you see that I’m pregnant. Don’t you stop to think that maybe it’s the hormones? Yeah, I had my occasional breakouts before pregnancy. But I’ve never, ever had acne this awful. And It’s not something I want to discuss either. It’s my face. And it sucks. But I know it’s temporary. And I know that this beautiful baby girl I have is worth all of it. She can take ALL my beauty. She deserves it.
This is me last summer right before I got pregnant. I was fit. I was active.
And just for the record, I’m not going to have a huge baby. There isn’t a monster in there. I don’t have diabetes and I’m not growing a macrosomia baby.
Oh yeah, I also have celiac disease people. Do you understand or know what that can do to a person? Regardless if your gluten free or not you still have flare ups. And I’ll be the first to tell you that after I eat, my stomach looks huge. After I wake up, I feel small again. Being celiac is always a struggle and always something I’ll have to deal with. But it’s not doing me any favors in this pregnancy that’s for sure. I struggled with constipation the first 15 weeks before I finally figured out how to get it under control.
Bottom line. If you don’t have anything nice to say, just don’t say anything at all.